Aging in Place: Planning Ahead for Comfort, Safety, and Peace of Mind

May 14, 2025

 Aging in place: Planning Ahead for Comfort, Safety, and Peace of Mind

Client Story


One of my clients came to me looking for help in financing the remodeling of his home to make it safer as he got older. 

In 2021 he refinanced their $2.5M home that had a $510K 1st mortgage for 2,75 % fixed.  It would have been crazy to refinance again at 8%, they had already looked at a HELOC and a conventional second mortgage and they were 8%  with mandatory monthly payments. 

As luck would have it, one of my lenders had just come out with a unique Reverse Mortgage product, a Reverse Second Mortgage with no mandatory monthly payments. They were approved for a $1M Reverse Second Loan without adding a new monthly mortgage payment.

Now, they’ve got a safer home and peace of mind, all while keeping their original mortgage intact.


How often do you hear a client say,
“I plan to live in this house forever”?
And how often do they follow it up with,
“...but it needs some updates”?


That’s the reality for many older homeowners. In fact, 9 out of 10 say they want to stay in their home as long as possible. But as much as we love the comfort and memories tied to our homes, the truth is—those same homes may not be designed for the way we live as we age.

Here’s something important to consider: 1 in 3 adults over 65 falls each year, and half of those falls happen at home. For those over 85, the risk is even higher. It’s one of the leading causes of injury among older adults.

That’s why conversations about aging in place are so important. And not just for today, but for the future.


The Takeaway

Even if your clients are active and independent today, it’s wise to ask:
Is your home set up for aging in place?  What happens if mobility becomes a challenge down the road?


The goal isn’t to worry—it’s to be proactive. A few smart decisions today can help create a home that not only works better tomorrow, but adds comfort and value right now.


Let’s help our clients stay safe, independent, and confident in the place they call home.



Could This Strategy Benefit Your Clients? Let’s Find Out!

Do any of your clients fit this scenario? Retirement in Reverse would be happy to provide a customized, hypothetical scenario to help you assess if this strategy could be a valuable solution. Let’s explore how we can make it work for your clients!



Who would have ever thought you could use a reverse mortgage for this?

Today’s reverse mortgage is no longer the loan of last resort. It’s a flexible financial tool that can be used strategically for:

  • Charitable giving
  • Buy-sell agreements
  • Paying for long-term care or in-home support
  • Funding a business venture
  • Helping Grandkids Fund College Expense
  • Gift down payment to your Kids
  • Any many more….

It’s all about what the money costs. It’s just math.


Retirement In Reverse offers Objective, Competent Advice to help you make informative decisions for your clients.
Furthermore, we have
No Conflict of Interest, as we do not sell Financial Product, nor enter into financial planning engagements. We share your commitment to your clients’ financial stability and quality of life.



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